It Gets Better (If You Stick Around For It) #ItGetsBetter
A beautiful viral movement has started: It Gets Better. It all began because of one man’s outrage over the senseless suicides of young gay teens who ended their lives because of bullying. But for me, it’s more than that. We lose our children every day to suicide. For whatever reason they feel they have no where to turn, no solution that can stop their pain.
“Why are we waiting for permission to talk to these kids? We have the ability to talk directly to them right now. We don’t have to wait for permission to let them know that it gets better. We can reach these kids.” – Dan Savage
What makes one person push through the pain, while another feels that suicide is the only way out? We may never know, but we are hoping and praying that it’s having someone to listen, someone to hear you, someone to break through that shell that keeps us away from communicating our pains and weaknesses.
This is Matthew.
He is (was) my nephew. (Never quite sure how to say that.)
He is no longer among the living, because he took his life this year. Right before his 19th birthday. A few short weeks before I lost my Mother.
Why did he do it? We may never know. He left no note. He was depressed.
He was upset about a break-up with a girl. A girl that probably would have been a distant memory had he stayed stronger in that moment. A girl that cared so little about him that she did not even call for help at the moment he made the choice that destroys his family nearly every day.
And now he is a memory, to those who loved him.
Are there people with regrets? Probably. Maybe the friend he mentioned suicide to days before it happened? Maybe the friend that did not tell his mom the truth about where he was that night? Maybe those that dismissed his heartbreak as being no big deal?
One can play the “if only” game forever, but I prefer to play the “If Only” game today. Before another young person loses their life over something that each one of us can make better today.
There are people that come into our lives daily. We can show compassion. We can let them know we understand and we have been there. We can take a stand. We can make a difference.
During every single one of these senseless deaths, we are all so willing to say why? There had to be another way? If only….
If only each of us reaches out today. This moment could change a life. A single act of kindness, love, support, could make tomorrow a better day for one person. You could save a brother, a son, a father, a daughter, a sister, a mother, a friend and their family from a mistake that can never be repaired. If only you help today. And tomorrow. And so on.
All I ask is that you help. I don’t care how. I just ask that you help now. So we do not have to play the “If Only” game tomorrow.
Make a donation to The Trevor Project by texting KIND to 85944. #ItGetsBetter
Share this article or any article that can help with the hashtag #ItGetsBetter
Make a video to contribute to the It Gets Better movement.
Say hello to a person that is different than you and make a new friend.
Start communicating with that girl or boy that you haven’t spoken to in years, but used to call your friend.
Ask someone if they are ok. And listen.
Call or visit the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK if you or someone you know exhibits any of the signs of suicide.
My favorite It Gets Better Videos So Far:
Darren Hayes, Musician, shares his story.
Chris Colfer (Glee) for The Trevor Project
Joel Madden, of Good Charlotte
What Are The Warning Signs For Suicide?
Seek help as soon as possible by contacting a mental health professional or by calling the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK if you or someone you know exhibits any of the following signs:
- Threatening to hurt or kill oneself or talking about wanting to hurt or kill oneself
- Looking for ways to kill oneself by seeking access to firearms, available pills, or other means
- Talking or writing about death, dying, or suicide when these actions are out of the ordinary for the person
- Feeling hopeless
- Feeling rage or uncontrolled anger or seeking revenge
- Acting reckless or engaging in risky activities – seemingly without thinking
- Feeling trapped – like there’s no way out
- Increasing alcohol or drug use
- Withdrawing from friends, family, and society
- Feeling anxious, agitated, or unable to sleep or sleeping all the time
- Experiencing dramatic mood changes
- Seeing no reason for living or having no sense of purpose in life
And if you have no one to talk to and need a friend, please message me @BuzzEdition